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10 ways to have a better conversation | Celeste Headlee

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When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations - and that most of us don't converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. "Go out, talk to people, listen to people," she says. "And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed."
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8/03/2016

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Media Productions
Media Productions 12 घंटे पहले
Oof.
III II III I
III II III I दिन पहले
How do you have a conversation with someone when you both have nothing to say?
Hajer al-Mubarak
Hajer al-Mubarak 5 दिन पहले
The reason I’ll start my own blog : @ 4:52
Rostrum 59
Rostrum 59 6 दिन पहले
👍
陈正岩
陈正岩 6 दिन पहले
Honestly speaking,I was really amazed by this speaker when she ended up with ‘be prepared to be amazed’.Conversation has been always troubling me as the central issue of my social life. The skills that the speaker called ‘all crap’ are something that I actually tried.Yes,I used to brag out my humor to attain the attention of others in a conversation.The speaker,instead,tend to explain the importance of acceptance.Maybe, she is correct.All the ten 10 rules are the same in my opinion.Only when we all are bound to listen,I will feel more of the world.
Hari
Hari 8 दिन पहले
Hello Ma'am, what you said is absolutely important but there's nothing new.. no honestly not a word was new.. all these things have been told to us by Mom, Dad, elderly people, school teachers from our childhood but the question is whether we really implement it or not....
Veri Brahmana
Veri Brahmana 8 दिन पहले
Luar biasa!
Zach Trapper
Zach Trapper 9 दिन पहले
Guess I should start making friends based off of what I’ll believe in the future.
tracy thompson
tracy thompson 10 दिन पहले
I find your conversation very intelligent spoken and explaining your ways of our lives. Take care of your health and the weather makes all the sense in the world to me. Very important for everyone in our world.
Emily Willen
Emily Willen 12 दिन पहले
Didn't Winston S. Churchill say the skirt quote?
Maimoona Khan
Maimoona Khan 13 दिन पहले
God, I just realized I was so bad to talk to. 😰 Sorry people. I would be doing much more of self assessment keeping this in mind. Thanks ❤
Fernanda Levine
Fernanda Levine 14 दिन पहले
Wow
Suborna Sinha
Suborna Sinha 15 दिन पहले
You are fantastic.... What a logical and real analysis. Every single word of this speech is true. Loved it.
Luke Cheung
Luke Cheung 16 दिन पहले
Useless.
T.K.
T.K. 16 दिन पहले
easier said than implemented
Hwiuw 129
Hwiuw 129 16 दिन पहले
This is the most awesome TED video that i've ever seen
ᄆ ᄆ
ᄆ ᄆ 21 दिन पहले
1. 한꺼번에 여러가지 일 하지 않기. 그 대화에 푹 빠지기 2. 설교하지 않기. 자기주장만 내세우고싶으면 블로그에 글이나 써. 항상 배눌 것이 있다는 자세로 대화에 임해. 진정한 경청은 자신을 내려놓는거야. 때때론 자신의 의견을 내러놔야 할 수 도 있지. 하지만, 말하는 이가 듣는 이가 수용하고있다는 느낌이 들면 더 속내를 열기돠. 3. 자유롭게 대답할 수 있는 질문 해. (Ex. 화났어요? 어땠어요?) 4. 대화 흐름 따라가기
Joe Cho
Joe Cho 21 दिन पहले
Good
Ximena Salas
Ximena Salas 22 दिन पहले
Can someone translate this to Spanish?
TiffanyTylerr
TiffanyTylerr 24 दिन पहले
Omg, this was 🔥🔥🔥
James K
James K 25 दिन पहले
The old guy sitting in the front row of the audience was completely and totally disengaged from her talk. He looked like a corpse sitting there.
Mauricio Castro
Mauricio Castro 25 दिन पहले
SKELER GIVE SOME SUGARRRRRRRRRRR
al videos
al videos 26 दिन पहले
Cut out the bullshit small talk, if you are going to say something about YOU say something about YOU, not where you went to school blah blah.
Pigbaby Fed
Pigbaby Fed 27 दिन पहले
Finally I understood the main point of the video.
DayBe Net
DayBe Net 27 दिन पहले
"A conversation is like a miniskirt, short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject." I like this saying.
Kamden Cosgrove
Kamden Cosgrove 28 दिन पहले
“ the average person talks at about 225 words per minute, but we can listen at up to 500 words per minute.” This is exactly why I’m watching this at 1.25 x speeed😂
Xavier Roma
Xavier Roma 26 दिन पहले
Kamden Cosgrove Then you should be watching it at 2x
Faith
Faith 28 दिन पहले
Amazing. Thank you.
David Daring
David Daring महीने पहले
She is talking about what women need to learn in order to carry on a conversation.
R L
R L महीने पहले
Maybe there is no one who respond to my question but I left that 2:04-2:08 Why is people laughing at the time for listening to the sentence "I came to realize~" ? I'm English beginner though
R L
R L महीने पहले
@BeiKem JernJean I understand what you explained, Thanks
BeiKem JernJean
BeiKem JernJean महीने पहले
Before that she was talking about how she read an article about speaking without reading notes. Then she reads a note during your time stamp.
Sara Sshafaq
Sara Sshafaq महीने पहले
Amazing ❤️
maverick rush
maverick rush महीने पहले
This talk could have been way more effective if Miss Celeste could talk in a low speed, good talk and content but not that good presentation. Sorry and thank you.
Antonio Bellido
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And here I am watching at 1.5 playback speed. We all need more words per minute, otherwise we get impatient.
S L
S L महीने पहले
I am still waiting when will Ted is gonna talk
Dávid Nyilas
Dávid Nyilas महीने पहले
"Number five: If you don't know, say that you don't know." Yea i tried this one, my teacher didn't really like it.
Dávid Nyilas
Dávid Nyilas 13 दिन पहले
@Bambi CedarFawn My teacher didn't like me and he knew i didn't like learning school stuff(that's kinda the reason he didn't like me i guess), so he always asked questions from me to either force me to learn the bs or make me look stupid in front of the class. I chose the second one and i just constantly answered him "i don't know", he was sometimes even making fun of me because of that. sadlife.
Bambi CedarFawn
Bambi CedarFawn 13 दिन पहले
I had a teacher growing up who said "I don't know" is a perfectly acceptable answer.
Dávid Nyilas
Dávid Nyilas 14 दिन पहले
@Joseph García Now he thinks i'm stupid lul
Joseph García
Joseph García 14 दिन पहले
How did it go?
Miguel Pereira
Miguel Pereira महीने पहले
My problem is the exact opposite of other people. I am perfectly fine with just sitting there listening to a conversation, then people ask me sarcastically to shut up
Miguel Pereira
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@Fabrizia Muci Yeah lol I honestly think sometimes I may be autistic to a small degree. I usually don't care about getting involved in day to day conversations, but if it's a field I am interested in I'll gladly talk all day. I have come to realise most conversations are just meaningless trash. And even the ones that have value in them are usually about someone reporting their experiences and their opinions on people/events with extreme bias
Fabrizia Muci
Fabrizia Muci महीने पहले
Change company and friends. That happened to me too many times in my adolescence with boring people I was hanging out which were always talking about things I had nothing to say about or I wasn't interested in, but I was listening anyway. Shouting ironically to someone out of the blue "Ehi you're talking too much tonight!" would just make them feel uncomfortable, despite the effort he/she was putting in following an uninteresting conversation, and doesn't really changes the situation or make he/she feel engaged in the conversation. That never happened to me with people I could actually share some good thoughts.
Allen Arceo
Allen Arceo महीने पहले
"All experiences are equal"
Hans-Georg Lundahl
Hans-Georg Lundahl महीने पहले
5:07 Unfair to blogs. Including mine: A few of them are specialised on where others were specifically allowed or even invited to debate and talk back: assortedretorts.blogspot.com/ dito in French and German: repliquesassorties.blogspot.com/ antw-n-sorte.blogspot.com/ Dito on FB walls and groups: hglsfbwritings.blogspot.com/ Dito per mail (including FB mail): correspondentia-ioannis-georgii.blogspot.com/
M. T.
M. T. महीने पहले
I know it's a cliche to say well this video changed my life. 😂 l used to think if l entertain others all the time they will stay longer. I even tought if there was silence something was wrong. Haha was that a fail. I kept talking about me me me and me and there was some interesthing and funny stuff but l complitely forgot about other person in front of me. I was left with only 1 friend. 😂 But that's only because she is the most amazing friend who is able to take a lot of crap and not hold it against you. Now that l listen and pay more attention to the others l am filled with extra energy, l could run two marathons. When the attention was focused on me l was so tired at the end of a day. And l just love people and their uniq stories. So much can be learned! You are all so amazing, you are all my tribe. Have a good one! 🌞
S L
S L महीने पहले
She said that go with the flow... what if you think about recalling your experience and equating it with theirs?
hamza belmengaa
hamza belmengaa महीने पहले
You don't need to read a book, She abbreviated everything.👏
Cameron E.
Cameron E. महीने पहले
I feel like I’m so boring, my friends say I’m not but I feel like I can’t keep a conversation going and I feel so bad because I NEVER know what to say. Like I care about the things people say but I just for the life of me don’t know what to say :/
krish garg
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Loved it!❤️
Londoner
Londoner महीने पहले
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rodrigo lopez
rodrigo lopez महीने पहले
It’s all well and good to put the onus on the listener, but I think you’ll find there is a real problem with the people speaking these days. I know you covered it somewhat in this talk, because to partake in a conversation we are both listeners and speakers. But what is it you make of monologists, and to what responsibility do we hold the speaker , as to their role to keep a listener interested? People these days waffle on complete rubbish, so therefore it’s no wonder the other person becomes disinterested and starts thinking of a turtle bombing a hill on a skateboard.
sariahsue
sariahsue महीने पहले
We talk around 250 words per minute, but we can listen up to 500 words per minute. Now I know why I prefer and focus better on double speed!
Gracie Gonzalez
Gracie Gonzalez महीने पहले
I love this so much! Everyone needs to watch this... and apply it!
CivicNacho
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No
CivicNacho
CivicNacho महीने पहले
Uahhhhh
xX_M4tix_Xx
xX_M4tix_Xx महीने पहले
Algún wn del paula?
xX_M4tix_Xx
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@CivicNacho chupame el chlripan waxo qlo
CivicNacho
CivicNacho महीने पहले
No
It's Okay
It's Okay महीने पहले
5:53 - Bill Nye the anti-science guy? LOL!
It's Okay
It's Okay महीने पहले
I hate having conversations with people when it feels like they are interviewing me.
C S
C S महीने पहले
If you support trump, I’ll kick you out of my house!
It's Okay
It's Okay महीने पहले
Trump is going to win in a landslide in 2020. I don't see anything going for the Democrats except their shared visceral hatred of conservative American and Christian values. All real signs point to a Trump landslide in 2020. Since the media (including social media) is skewing reality to make Democrats look like they are in a better position than they actually are, I predict the Leftist meltdown produced in 2020 will eclipse the 2016 meltdown and become the political story of the age. When you get your reality from spin doctors and then real life hits you hard, it causes a breakdown. This is a good thing so all thinking people should look forward to it. Leftists live in a false reality so any attack on that false reality can only be considered a good thing for them. The truth will set you free but at first, it will piss you off. Expect a lot of pissed off Democrats walking around in 2020 but know that it's the first step to coming back to reality.
David Galvan
David Galvan महीने पहले
Breath....
A Z
A Z महीने पहले
I loved your talk listening is a good skill to have I've been working on it for a long time. I rather listen than watch sometimes it seems you can catch a whole lot more that way
POOJA KENE
POOJA KENE महीने पहले
I am amazed 😄
Spring BOK
Spring BOK महीने पहले
Brilliant. Thank you!
eekamoose
eekamoose 2 महीने पहले
Excellent advice. And Celeste has a very smart sister :o)
3TTriple
3TTriple 2 महीने पहले
Need 10 ways to avoid any conversation.
خالد عصام
خالد عصام 2 महीने पहले
wow
Reyvan Adryan
Reyvan Adryan 2 महीने पहले
Thank you very good talk
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